Well its mothers day, my 16th anniversary, my youngest daughters 9th birthday...all with in the same 5 days. If course it all got boiled down to one family dinner on Sunday, except for my daughters birthday, (a pool party) crazy expensive. But mothers day...I bought a white dress weeks ago...to have my kids color their art work on it so I could have it for mothers day...I also at the same time had my kids do up a very cute fathers day gift. ( my husband could not be bothered to get involved, think about it or be alert. ) that was just mothers day....but 16 years together...no dates ...well unless I plan them. ( I also plan and execute all birthdays/ Christmases/BBQS/dates ...if there are any/ any holiday or special occasions/ along with all the daily requirements. )
So our anniversary was combined with mothers day..even though it was actually 3 days ago. Celebrating it later is not what bothers me. Its the absolute lack of effort my husband wants to put forth. I finally ( because I knew he would not plan anything) agreed ok let's just call it celebrated on mothers day. I usually plan our anniversaries too...like going to see him if he' out of town...mostly I spend the time by my self...but I have orchestrated some events, and organized kids and care. Last anniversary, I planned an escape room/ dinner date. He showed up. I feel a bit sad tonight as I write this. Knowing that our life is just a series of me putting in effort and him kinda "showing up". Theres always a reason for his lack of effort, too tired/ packing shovel/overtime/ not intersted/ the list goes on. I get he's tired, I homeschool 3 kids, and never sleep. I totally get tired, and I am not intrested in many of my kids conversations about who hit who/ who took who's toy/ Minecraft/ glitter/ ponies/ or the new item hatchimales. ( a tiny little glittery toy)...but I give interst to them. I am also not intersted, in long one sided convos of overtime/ shovels/ jeeps/ or what ever Jason has...but again I give interest. If I drone on about anything in my day with in the first 30 sec...I have been tuned out. Long rant...I just think for the effort I put in I should get at least 10% effort from him...before I have to point it out or get mad.